Valentine Woes? One Little Thing That Can Improve Your Relationship

It is Valentine's Day!  Oooo, flowers, candy, jewelry, it's the day the one you love tells you they love you.....unless you are alone, unless they forget, unless they don't live up to your expectations....I could go on and on.  Don't torture yourself!  Either they love you or they don't, their love does not depend on what they do on Valentine's Day.  

Valentine's Day has become a consumer driven holiday just like every other holiday in the U.S.A.  I say focus on what really matters in a relationship.  Do they love you?  Do they show it, the way that you understand it?  I once learned about the different ways we show love, and the way we understand love.  We often employ more than one, but if you aren't communicating your love in the same way as your loved one, you may be simply having a disconnect and therefore feeling unsatisfied in your relationship.

Giving Service.  Love is shown by doing things for the person you love, and you in return understand love that way.  If the person you are with is not doing things for you, you may feel they don't love you.

Time Together. If this is how   you give and receive love you will need to be spending time with your loved one.  You need that time together to feel as if you are loved.

Physical Contact.  This one is easy for us to understand, it is erroneously applied as the basis of most relationships.  But if having contact with your loved one is  necessary for you to feel and give love, this may be how you give and receive love.

Spoken Words.  If you need to verbally hear that your significant other loves you or you need that verbal support this may be your preferred method of love communication

Presents!  If you are gift giver and expect everyone else to be too, this is yours (my mother was in this category).  

I promise if you sit down and examine your relationship, you will see the gap.  If you are both not feeling loved, there is a disconnect in the communication of your love.  Now that you see these five types of love communication it will be easier to notice how you are giving love and how your significant other showing their love for you in return.   Hopefully you can bridge the gap with some Spoken Words. 

I have one more piece of advice for having a Happy Valentine's Day, as a woman, we tend to think men can read our minds.  Lucky for me I really was a Daddy's Girl, and guess what...they really don't.  If you want something from your man, TELL HIM!  He's not going to figure it out and he doesn't get hints!  Last thing, don't compare your relationship to others, especially ones in movies. Much luck on having a Happy Valentine's Day, if you are single tune in this evening.